A long-distance relationship can be really tough, the reason being obvious. But even if you don't have your partner to crawl upto and cuddle in the middle of the night, you can still make it work. In fact, long-distance relationships can be very successful— the arrangement makes it possible for you to apprecciate the time you spend together. In between those long waits are those beautiful bursts of happiness, when he comes to visit.
However, long distance relationship also opens the door to insecurities and jealousy. One night he doesnot pick up your call and your imagination is going all wild . Suddenly, you place him in a hotel room with a hottie. Trust your partner and have faith in the strength of your relationship. Open up and be honest with him. Talk to him about your insecurities. Keeping your doubts to yourself will only make matters worse.
Long distance relationship demands quality time. When you are at home 24/7 with your husband or boyfriend, it is alright to multi task while talking to him. But when you are away from him, make sure that you set aside some time for him. Tell him about how your day was, let him feel that he is a part of your life. Tell him about different things that you miss when he is not around or about something that you saw that reminded you of your time together. Talk to him daily. Try to video chat atleast a couple of times a week. Seeing each other live can be very relaxing.
If he shares his feelings with you and says that he is unhappy about something in the relationship, don't be defensive and argue back. You will end up taking off all your frustrations on him. Instead listen to him patiently and see what he wants. Appreciate the fact that he is being honest with you about his feelings. Talk to him about it and come up with a solution that you both are OK with.
Stop whining all the time and nagging him about all your frustrations. Donot get caught up in negative thoughts. Instead let him know how much you love him. Talk to him passionately and tell him how much you miss his tender kisses.
Sometimes it is purely frustrating that he is not there next to you and your physical and emotional needs go unmet. When this happens go fix yourself a bubble bath and listen to a song that you both enjoy, You will feel a lot more relaxed.
Every time you miss him or think of him, leave him a small text message. He will know that you are thinking about him and want to be with you even more.
Donot ever list out to him the sacrifices that you have made to keep this relationship going on. This is something that most women do and it can be quite annoying. If your relationship is still intact, it means that there has been a combined effort from both your sides. You may chose to differ with this, but it is true. Listing out all that you have done for him point by point is not going to help him realise anything.
Surprise him. Be creative and send him personalised gifts every once in a while. It could be something as small as a hand made card. Trust me, your efforts will not go unappreciated. Donot wait for him to come visit you. Show up at his door when he least expects you. Plan a weekend getaway. You will see him falling in love with you over and over again.
Most importantly, have a life of your own. Socialise with other people. Don't stay at home by the phone waiting for his call. Instead go out and have fun with your friends. Plus you will have something to talk to your partner about the next time he calls.
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