Stop Being The Needy Girlfriend

A needy person can be a big turnoff in a relationship. No one wants to be with a person who is always desperate for attention and re-assurance. It is a romance-killer. No one wishes to come back home to a whining girlfriend. Here are a few things that you should keep in mind before you accuse your partner.

Guys love their personal space. They need some time all by themselves. So, the next time he is had a busy week and decides to spend the weekend watching a movie alone or hanging out with his friends, don't go yelling towards him, gritting your teeth and wagging your finger. Instead, get on with your work and when he finally gets back, be nice to him.

Do you text him way too often asking him where he is, what he is been upto? Do you leave him a 100 messages even when he is not replying?  While it is OK to leave him sweet messages a few times a day, you should not invade his inbox with messages. He might be busy with something. So don't expect him to keep you updated with what ia happening in his life every second. Learn to draw the line between loving and needy.

Do you always feel that he doesn't give you the attention  you deserve? That you have been doing a lot for him and you get nothing back in return? That he takes you for granted?  That even during his free time, he prefers to be with his friends than you?  Agreed that you are his girl friend and he needs to find time for you. But it is not going to happen if you cling on to him all the time or have endless number of thoughtless fights about not finding time to be with you. Remember that you are both separate individuals who had lives of your own before you met each other. Don't be that girl who has nothing better to do than wait for her boyfriend . Instead do what you would normally do. Go out with your friends and have fun. Pursue all the dreams that you had before you met him. This will keep  you happy and occupied.  Soon you will see that he will be longing for your attention and wanting to spend more time together. However, don't make the mistake of ignoring him completely.

 Do you feel insecure when he spends time with other girls?  Do you feel that he will cheat on you and leave you for some gorgeous girl? This is just due to low self-esteem. Always, trust your man and have faith in the strength of your relationship.  Reassure yourself that you are a great catch .Be mysterious and unpredictable. Surprise him when he least expects it. Try new things all the time so that he never gets enough of you. This will help  you feel a lot more in control.

In the beginning of the relationship, you must have spend hours snuggling up in bed and talking to him over the phone. But once that novelty of the relationship wears off, he might  want to cut down the duration of the call. This doesn't mean that he loves you less. Its just a sign that he is getting back to his normal life. Don't pester him and force him to talk to you.  Get back to your work. Keep your calls short for a couple of days and hang up before he does. It will make him miss you more.

Stop nagging him about how much time he spends with his friends and how little time he spends with you. Encourage him to spend time with his friends. Its healthy for your relationship that you both have a social life.Let him have a few laughs and get back to you happy and cheerful.  Otherwise you reach a stage where you get sick of having each other around all the time and find faults in one another. Make sure that your whole life does not revolve around him.

Solve you problems yourself. Don't always whine about people around you and how they take advantage of you. Though talking about it once in a while is OK, it can be quite depressing to have to hear it every night. Show him that you are strong and independent and can take care of your problems yourself. This will only make him adore you more.

Are you one of those people who keeps complaining that your man does not love you half as much as you love him? Nothing can be more annoying than this. Don't let negativities get to you. That is the same man you fell head over heels in love with. Learn to see all the positives in him and cherish all the beautiful moments that you have done. All this wouldn't be possible if he didnot love you back.

 

If after everything you feel that he is never around, then just walk out of the relationship. If you feel that he always treats you as second priority, dump him. He obliviously doesn't know what you are worth. You deserve to be with someone who appreciates you.